When I started writing this post I was angry at myself and angry at the company that sparked me to write it. I had ordered a pair of size medium shorts two weeks ago and was so excited when they were in my mailbox. I ripped open the bag and scurried into my bathroom to try them on. They didn’t fit. Not even close. The button was just not going to button and while the zipper zipped, it was uncomfortable. I was so upset that I cried.
How does one pair of ill-fitting shorts have such an impact on my mental and emotional health? Simple: Poor body image. I don’t like how I was put together and it’s obvious when I burst into tears over shorts! Let’s talk about body positivity.
What is Body Positivity?
Body positivity is when you’ve learned to accept everything about your body, flaws and all, and celebrate it for doing the amazing things it does. More importantly, it’s about being confident in your skin.
As much as I’d love to make this a ra-ra I love my body post, it won’t be. Sorry! I wish I could truly love myself, fatty areas and all, I’m just not quite there yet. I’ve always looked at self-love as something for people who have either been through serious hardships and need to recover…. or really skinny, pretty women. Neither of which is accurate, anyone can practice self-love. I just never viewed it as something for me.
The last few months have been particularly hard on my mind and body. I’ve been dealing with depression episodes (more about that here) and I’ve had to stop exercising because of inflammation in my hip.
Luckily, I’ve been able to keep the weight off from my inactivity and even drop a few pounds- 8 to be exact. This brings me to a bigger challenge I’ve recently faced- how is it possible that I’m thinner than I was at the start of the year and my size 8 shorts are snugger than ever before? Like I said, challenges like these make body positivity incredibly difficult!
How Do You Embrace it?
This is something I’m desperately trying to figure out. How do you embrace your body for what it is and love it? I’m annoyed with my body that it’s shifted weight around so much that things I used to slip on with no problem are now snug. Um no! Not what I was envisioning when I ate a salad every day for lunch.
So, I don’t have all the answers on embracing your body and being positive about it but, my mom said something interesting to me this morning. She said she’s been working on having a positive outlook on life and its really improved her mental and even physical health. Could it be that just adjusting how I view my life in general could have an impact on my physical health? It just might.
Instead of trying to force myself to do a 180 in terms of how I view my body, maybe I (and you) should start with just being positive about life! Is that so crazy? I don’t think so. Maybe that’s step one on the road to positive body image.