Why Accepting Yourself can be Your Biggest Challenge

Hey everyone! I wanted to chat about some exciting things going on in my life and share how my mental and physical health journey is going. Some of you may know that I’ve had issues with anxiety and depression (which is why I like to blog about it!) as well as body image issues. All the fun stuff, right? HA! I’ve always tried to be open with others about these personal problems because I think they’re important to talk about. Sharing my journey is at a turning point though- I’ve realized that accepting myself opens a million doors!

The Comparison Game

I’ve spent years comparing myself to other women. I often wondered “why am I not as thin as she is?” or “why don’t I have the beautiful home she does?” All these questions left me drained and feeling unworthy. Let’s be real- how on Earth could asking these questions ever be fulfilling? They’re questions that are designed to tear down the person who is asking them. And I WILLINGLY asked myself these questions.

Comparing myself and my life’s journey to someone else’s is a recipe for depression. Clinical depression isn’t always caused by one particularly thing, sometimes its honestly just a chemical imbalance in your brain, however it can be exasperated and prolonged by upsetting situations or thoughts. I made my own depression much worse and last much longer by asking myself almost every waking moment of the day, why I wasn’t good enough. It literally made me sick.

Understanding My Relationship with Money

I had a revelation the other day thanks to something my counselor said. When I was complaining to her that I didn’t understand why I didn’t have the nice cars other women have, nice home, perfect body etc. she said to me “Your value systems are unique and aren’t the same as others.” My internal light bulb went on. She was so right.

I relish in the fact that I’ve padded my savings account enough that a car repair, an emergency trip home, or a surprise bill won’t make a dent in my budget. I do a happy dance whenever I get to deposit more money into my savings account because it means I’m meeting my financial goals!

Having it All

When I compare myself to other people that appear to “have it all,” I often forget that credit cards and loans are a thing and most American’s carry around a fair amount of debt. The other day I was walking out of Target (not surprising at all) and there was a girl about my age getting into a shiny new Mercedes. I thought to myself “how come I don’t have one too?” Then I thought, OH WAIT! I hate car payments! And if I bought a nice new car, then you better believe I’d have one! So I hopped into my 2007 Ford Edge (a hand-me-down from my future sister in law) and drove away!

My views on money management are simply different from other peoples’ and that’s totally fine. I buy most of my clothing on clearance. I only buy furniture on sale and have no problem doing a DIY if I need to. David and I’s rental home isn’t super fancy but only takes up 1/8th of our paycheck. That, in my opinion, is winning at life. My counselor also reminded me that millionaires can often be hard to spot because they live next door to you and drive old cars. MIND BLOWN. So moral of the story- material items don’t equal happiness, feeling secure and safe does.

Getting Comfortable in My Skin

“If you accept yourself the way you are now, all the things you want will fall into place” this is what my counselor said to me the other day at our appointment. I’ve struggled for the last few years with my body not cooperating with any of my weight loss tactics and it’s been so discouraging.

I didn’t have crazy expectations like having a six-pack of abs or a super lifted booty, but I wanted to see progress in my exercising and calorie-counting regiment. Surprise surprise- my body resists pretty much every attempt at losing weight because of my high stress levels and oddly enough, food intolerance.

Cortisol is the stress hormone and when your body makes too much of it, it can be harder to lose weight. I’m just about the most anxious person I know and something as simple as driving to a new place in Dallas can cause a wave of anxiety for me. Combine my anxiety to simple, everyday things with my anxiety over how my body looks and BOOM- cortisol levels are spiking all day, everyday! So the less I stress about how much weight I’ve lost and how I look, the more likely I am to lose weight. Accepting myself, being happy with the way I was built, and most importantly, being happy with my lifestyle, could actually lead to the results I’ve been pining for.

Surprising Food Allergies

Now let’s talk about that food allergy I mentioned earlier. For years I’ve dealt with constant bloating and stomach pain after eating just about anything. Looking in the mirror all I’d see is a girl with a big stomach in pain. Fun, let me tell ya! It killed myself esteem and made me even more anxious (and sometimes still does). I literally just went to the doctor and he told me I had a severe allergy to lactose. Yeah- my digestive system is afraid of cheese! Insert eye roll here. He told me to take lactose pills every morning and the bloating should subside. One day later, I feel way better!

Key Takeaways

Sorry, this is the longest post ever but I just have so much to say! Accepting myself, my lifestyle, and the way God made me is literally the key to finding happiness and self-worth. How crazy is that? Imagine if we all did that and how we’d feel and even treat others? The comparison game, depression, body image issues, and a million other problems we all have may literally just become things of the past. How great would that be? So I’m encouraging you to reflect internally on who you are, what makes you different, what your value systems are, and how you feel throughout the day. The answers may surprise you!

How to Enjoy Exercising Again 

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Hey readers! Hopefully you had a great weekend and did something fun! Every Sunday, David and I usually get brunch somewhere together but lately we’ve been spending our Saturdays checking out new places to hike or take a nice walk. We both try to stay healthy and in shape, so we wanted something fun and active to do on the weekends together. Exercising is not my favorite thing to do but I’m determined to find ways to enjoy it and so should you. Here’s a few tips on how to enjoy exercising!

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Remember your budget

David and I are pretty budget conscious and like to find things to do that won’t break the bank. Most weekends we tend to eat our weight in fried food, so we decided to try a few hiking trails near Dallas to offset any weight gain. Mind you, I’m not a real hiker. I have no lung capacity and I’m not a big nature girl, but going on these hikes with David has turned me on to exercising options that go beyond an expensive yoga class.

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Exercise goes beyond a gym

Going to the gym is a love-hate relationship for me. I like to walk at an incline on the treadmill and lift free weights but I absolutely hate the process of going to the gym. Finding an activity that’s fun as well as beneficial for your body is the key to achieving your fitness goals. No one wants to do something on a regular basis that makes them miserable. Search beyond traditional gyms and classes for a physical activity that you’ll genuinely look forward to! For some people it might be long boarding at a park, but for me it’s a hike with my boyfriend!

Buy cute work out clothes

Any time I need a little push to get back into my fitness routine, I head to Target and find something cute to add to my workout wardrobe. Since I’m a style blogger, everything I wear has to be at least somewhat cute even if I’m not taking photos for a blog post. When I workout, my gym clothes need to be flattering, fun, and functional. Treat yourself to a new sports bra or running shorts to get motivated again!

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Workout with your best friend

David and I are each other’s best friend and favorite person to spend time with! We can be silly together (see embarrassing photo above) and laugh at the same dumb things. Doing something that you both genuinely love to do makes the physical fitness part much easier! Working out shouldn’t be a chore and it certainly should be done with other people.

Get motivated and get active! Go enjoy your week and find a new activity to get you going! Just a reminder- I’m currently taking on newbie or wannabe bloggers for my free consulting service! See this page for details!

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Cute Gym Style for Your New Year’s Resolutions

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Since I’m definitely not the only one that made a New Year’s Resolution to eat healthier and exercise, I thought now is the perfect time to talk about all that fun stuff. Is there anything harder than breaking bad habits? I stepped on the scale about a week ago and let me tell you, nothing motivates you like seeing the numbers just keep rising before your eyes. Absolutely terrifying. It doesn’t matter how thin or big I look to other people, I’m my own worst critic and I want to feel my best! The thing that motivates me to work out is the thrill of getting a toned body and buying new work out clothes!

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cute workout clothes

Being that I’m a self-proclaimed style blogger, I feel like I have to look cute no matter what I do, and that includes hitting the gym. I’ll never be able to walk into the gym and feel empowered by wearing old gym shorts and a baggy t-shirt. It just isn’t happening because let’s be honest, I’m totally checking myself out in the mirror while I work out. And I know I’m not the only one who does this. I’m studying my form, how my gym style compares to everyone else’s, and whether or not my legs look big in the leggings I’m wearing.

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A few of my favorite places to get workout clothes are from Target and Old Navy. Of course I love Lulu Lemon and the cute uppity-ness going on with their clothing, but it just isn’t affordable right now. I’m always on the hunt for similar styles for half the price. Read on for a few of my finds below!

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My “outfit of the day” is probably my favorite outfit to exercise in! Dallas has lots of great places to run but my favorite place is the treadmill inside and away from the cold! Let me know how your resolutions are going and share any weight loss tips with me in a comment below!

Apple Cider Vinegar Detox

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Oh my goodness, I’m so glad it’s Friday. It seemed like this week just went by so slowly. The only thing that kept me going was the copious amounts of junk food I ate. Since moving to Dallas, I haven’t been able to help my self from trying all the amazing food here. The brunches, Tex-Mex, and farmer’s market finds just keep me from being that healthy, weight conscious gal I used to be. Someone help me!

Speaking of the farmer’s market though, last weekend I came across a booth selling infused apple cider vinegar. It’s a health drink that our grandmothers probably took shots of everyday to stay on the up and up. Not sure what to think about it, I got a sample of the raspberry rose infusion and prepared for the worst. I was so surprised when I actually liked it! The lady that makes the infusions is the sweetest thing and better yet, her taste in designing displays is impeccable.

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I enjoyed the bottle I bought at the market on my balcony later on that day. It was the only healthy thing I ate or drank. Supporting local businesses like hers is so important to me because they add culture and value to the communities we live in. Next weekend, I think I’ll be going back to buy a few more! If you’re ever in Dallas, check out the farmer’s market for this yummy and healthy detox drink!

-Liz

What to Have in a Gym Bag

The Gym Bag

Thank goodness it’s Friday! I figured today would be a good day to post this because I’m sure quite a few of us have messed up on our diets or fitness regiments and will be “starting” again on Monday. To be honest, I haven’t even begun to try and work out or eat healthier again. Like I mentioned in yesterday’s post, I’m still getting settled in my new city!

The apartment I’ll be moving into has a great gym on site and hopefully next week I’ll mosey on over to the gym a few times. I think the most exciting part of starting a new fitness regime is getting to stock your gym bag and buy a few new workout clothes. Is there anything more motivating than new gym stuff? Maybe just the cute bikini you’ll slip into this summer!

What’s in My Gym Bag

  1. Workout Leggings- The stretchy pants the hit mid-calf are the most flattering in my opinion. I find most of mine at Marshall’s for around $15. Hint: Buy them in prints because it conceals any lumps you might not want everyone to see!
  2. Gym Shoes- Simple, right? It drives me crazy when I see someone wearing Sperry’s to lift weights. My best tip for getting gym shoes like the Under Armor ones above is to wait for Dick’s Sporting Goods to have their semi-annual sale.
  3. Deodorant Spray- Dove has a good spray that I like. Before I workout, I spray it behind my knees and around my feet. Other weight lifters appreciate it!
  4. Water Bottle- Fill it with ice cubes and lemon wedges for a refreshing thirst quencher.
  5. Weight Lifting Gloves- I love these to prevent blisters, but you have to be sure to wash them often to prevent stink and bacteria!
  6. Good Sports Bra- Victoria’s Secret makes a few great ones but I’m not paying $50 for something I’ll sweat in. I found the one above in Target and absolutely loved it! It clasps in the back and provides a lot more support. Best part? It’s only $16!

Not pictured: Great anti-chafe cream! When you hit the tread mill, your thighs tend to rub together and get sore. Monistat makes a good chafe cream you can buy at Wal Mart for a few dollars. Leave a comment with what’s in your gym bag!

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